That's not to say that despite me not being out there looking for a man that they are not looking at me and trying to contact me. And not saying that if a certain guy came into my life that I could see being with, I wouldn't go for it.
But the thing about all these guys are that they aren't looking for a relationship. All of them are looking for a hook up and if anyone knows anything about me that reads this blog, they know that I am not into the whole "hit it and quit it" thing. I have values, I have morals, I have standards.
It is extremely frustrating though because honestly it's making me believe that, that is all guys want now of days. Goes back to the saying "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" I just feel like guys expect every girl to just let them do that. I'm not knocking women that do the whole friends with benefits thing, don't get me wrong, it's your body do with it what you want, I am just saying I am not that type, but it seems like all the guys in my area expect all the women to be that way.
I will be straight up and say that I miss sex like crazy.. it's been 10 months almost.. it sucks.. because I admit that I am a very sexual being. But like I said.. random hook-ups is not my style, and I would rather wait (or use B.O.B.) than to be left feeling like I'm being used by a man that will probably forget how to text/call/talk to me once they get what they are looking for.. been there.. done that.. and some days it still bothers me about that guy because unfortunately I let my heart get ahead of myself on that one.
Just this week I've had 3 guys text me.. wanting to hook up... and once I shot that idea down they stopped texting me.. until the next time they are horny and try again...
I have one friend that I have known since high school. That a couple months ago moved about an hour away. He then tells me that he has always had feelings for me... but he doesn't want a long distance relationship (ok one... an hour is not that long of a distance, and two.. I couldn't see myself being with him even if he was here in town still.. he was like another brother to me in high school and I'm just not into him that way.. but anyway I digress) yet every time he is in town, visiting his family.. he texts me wanting to just "hook up" WTF? honestly I never saw him as that type of guy but the first time he did that it totally made me see him in a different light, he was no longer the sweet guy that I knew in high school.. but someone who had let me down.. the one guy that I thought I wouldn't hear that from once me and my ex split up.. but it proved to me more.. that most guys have one thing on their mind..especially when they think you are lonely and vulnerable.. and like I said.. EVERY TIME he is in town I get the same text.. only now I delete and ignore..
So right now I am kind of going into a little bit of a man hating phase.. I'm tired of the question, I'm tired of the texts, I am tired of being let down by a guy that I think is genuinely nice and then they pop that out there. When I tell them that I don't plan on having sex again outside of a relationship they try to talk me out of my decision.. and then tell me that they aren't really looking for a relationship.. awesome.. thanks for wasting my time dude...
Oh and whats worse.. the guys that have girlfriends that are texting me about hooking up too.. but we will get into that another day.
Ugh. I'm sorry that you dealing with these jerks. These guys aren't worth your time. Any guy that doesn't respect you enough to wait for marriage isn't much of a guy. {Hugs}
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